What would you do?

08.06.04 (12:15 am)

I am kind of lost at words right now. Someone that I know, not really a friend but an acquantance, approached me today with a shocking news about my bahavior. I don't really know how to take it. He feels that I have a big mouth, basically. What he said was that when he told me some stuff, although he didn't say it was in confidence, I told someone else and it came back to him. This sounds like a high school stuff but he was serious. Once he started to date this woman and told me everything was going great. Next he and others got together with me, I told others that he started to dating someone. He showed up late and when he did, he started to flirt with one of the girls. I kind of not thinking asked him how his girlfriend was. I just thought it was a public knowledge. He brought this up with one other example and said few people thinks that I have a big mouth and should not have told anyone about this. I felt kind of weird after hearing that. My personal philosophy is that unless someone tells me it's in confidence, I will talk about it in a group. I figure if it's not in confidence, it's a fair game when talking to a group of people. If you don't want others to know, you say please do not say anything to others. When told in confidence, I always keep it to myself. Was I wrong to assume that when people tell you things about their relationships, it's public information? Was I that wrong in assuming that? - eben

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posted by: idiosyncratic
post date: 08.06.04 (12:32 am)

ur friend should have told u to keep it confidential. but he didnt so its totally okay to tell ppl. and besides, u werent gossiping or nthin. u were just sharing information. tell ur friend to lighten up. cheers

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posted by: eka00
post date: 08.06.04 (8:34 am)

Nah. I don't think you were wrong. I would have done the same too. I mean, you weren't sworn to secrecy or anything....

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posted by: SatoriSam
post date: 08.06.04 (9:00 pm)

It sounds like this guy is not quite up front and center about his own affairs, and he expects you to maintain his illusionary life. I personally believe in a full disclosure lifestyle. (I guess this flys in the face of me being an anonymous blogger.)

This said, you might be telling more than you should. It's probably a good wakeup call. Maybe you should be more discrete, maybe not. In time, things will be more obvious. (Ok. This last bit sounds like a fortune cookie, but I think it’s accurate.)